And then, of course we have Love That Lusts! Lustful Love gets the juices flowing! To want! To yearn! The Passion! The endless sleepless nights! Sure none of us have ever really seen Lustful grow into anything, but in its throws we’re alive and on fire!
And the sweet and tender Long Term Love. Most often born of Romantic Love, it meanders its way through life on a foundation of warmth that from time to time can flare up to heat and then settles back down to warmth.
Well, move over folks because it’s high time that we’ve added another well deserved guest to the dinner party! Ladies and gentleman, I’d like to proudly introduce Practical Love. Echo echo echo… What? You’ve never heard of Practical Love? Hmmmm well, it’s true that I’m not familiar with any songs written about it. There hasn’t been any Hallmark Special Made For TV Movies written about it. Last time I checked there were no odes written in its honor either.
Not fair. Not fair because Practical Love is just as legitimate as any other kind of love out there and it’s time that it was awarded its rightful place right along side the other loves.
Practical Love is just what it sounds like. It’s a love that is bound together by practicality. You’ve made a life with someone who you’ve become wonderful friends with, maybe you share financial responsibilities, maybe you’ve agreed to co-parent, maybe you use each other as next of kin on those lengthy legal forms maybe you live together, maybe you don’t.
You’ve learned to rely on each other, to lean on each other and there is a sense that you have “each other’s back.” Physical intimacy within the Practical Love relationship is not very common but you do share stories, a history, memories, a comfort and an understanding. In essence, you share a practical love.
Practical Love is not a second class love and is as rightful as all of the other loves out there. While I’ve never seen a Valentines Day card written in honor of Practical Love, it’s time that Practical Lovers acknowledged the legitimacy of their relationship and acknowledged the legitimacy of their love.
As time moves on and the nuclear family continues to disperse, as half of the societal sanctioned long term monogamous relationships continue to dissolve, as it becomes more and more difficult to make financial ends meet and as the concept of “family” continues to change Practical Love relationships will become even more common. But, for now, welcome to the ball Practical Love! You can leave the pumpkin parked outside!
2 comments:
I think Practical Love is the best of the bunch. It can include some, if not all, of the other loves, but not visa versa. Practical Love to me is the only one that provides security if shared by both, and hopefully both partners get to, and acknowledge this love at the same time. The problem is; what if you are both not satisfied long term with Practical Love? What if one of you needs more of lets say Love that Lusts? Now what do you do?
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